Ne-Yo has been in the hot seat for the past few weeks for his comments about the trans community as well as those who nurture it, and the mother of his child has now spoken out against his outlook.
On Tuesday (August 22), Monyetta Shaw-Carter clarified her stance in a conversation with TMZ, saying that the singer’s views do not apply to her even though they parent two children together. Though she believes he is entitled to his opinion, she distanced herself from it by saying: “Those views are his.”
Carter, who didn’t criticize Ne-Yo as much as disagree with him, also made it a point to express that she stands by the queer community even if he doesn’t.
The comments in question trace back to a VladTV interview the R&B veteran did with Gloria Velez, where he questioned why children are able to “choose their genders.”
In a statement posted to social media in early August, he expressed his “deepest apologies” for the comments he made. However, in an updated post the following day, Ne-Yo clarified his stance and broke down exactly what he apologized for.
“I normally don’t give too much of a damn about what y’all think about what I do or what y’all have to say about what I say or whatever,” he began in a video. “I normally don’t care because like I said, opinions ain’t special. Everybody got one. However, this is something I feel very strongly on and I need y’all to hear this from the horse’s mouth and not the publicist’s computer – so check this out.”
He continued: “First and foremost, I do not apologize for having an opinion on this matter. I am a 43-year-old heterosexual man raising five boys and two girls. That’s my reality. Now, if my opinion offended somebody – yeah sure, I apologize for you being offended because that wasn’t my intention. My intention is never to offend anybody. However, I’m entitled to feel how I feel! I am absolutely entitled to feel how I feel, the same way you are entitled to feel how you feel.
“I ain’t ask nobody to follow me, I ain’t ask nobody to agree with me. I was asked a question and I answered the damn question. Okay? I have no beef with the LBGTQIA+ community whatsoever. I ain’t got no beef wit y’all! Do whatever the hell it is you wanna do! Do what you wanna do with your kids! However, somebody asked my opinion on this matter and this is how I feel. I will never be okay with allowing a child to make a decision that detrimental to their life. I will never be okay with that.”
While referring back to his original comments where he said he’d educate himself more on the matter, Ne-Yo still confirmed plans to do so, but still stood by his skepticism.
“I definitely plan to educate myself a little bit more on this matter. However, I doubt that there’s any book anywhere or any opinion that somebody’s gon’ tell me that’s gon’ make me okay with letting a child make a decision like that,” he said. “That’s just period point blank and that’s how I feel. If I get cancelled for this, then you know what? Maybe this a world where they don’t need a Ne-Yo no more. Aight? And I don’t got no problem with that. I’m a hustler, I’ma figure it out. I got kids to raise and I’ma do that. Regardless.”
He concluded: “So with that being said, y’all have a good day! I love everybody. Live how you wanna live, love how you wanna love but your opinion is yours! Speak your opinion as much as you damn well feel like it!”
In his caption, Ne-Yo noted that he won’t be bullied into apologizing for the matter.
“Ok. This shit is getting out of hand,” he wrote. “FROM THE HORSE’S MOUTH. I WILL NOT BE BULLIED INTO APOLOGIZING FOR HAVING AN OPINION. AGREEING TO DISAGREE IS NOT A DECLARATION OF WAR. Lord knows I ain’t perfect, I’ve made my mistakes indeed. And I’ve apologized to the people I’ve hurt for those mistakes. I couldn’t cast a stone if I wanted to, which I don’t. And I haven’t.”
He continued: “My intention is never to offend anybody…but my opinion is MINE and I’m entitled to it. I don’t care what y’all do with yours. That’s YOURS. This is how I FEEL. If one of my 7 kids were to decide that he or she wanted to be something other than what they were born as, once they’re old enough and mature enough to make that decision…so be it. Not gonna love em’ any less.
“Daddy is still Daddy and he loves you regardless. But this isn’t even a discussion until they are MENTALLY MATURE ENOUGH to have such a discussion. Period. Point blank. Whatever. Y’all do y’all, imma do me and we can agree to disagree and coexist PEACEFULLY. LOVE IS THE ONLY TRUE POWER.”
Ne-Yo’s original comments saw him question parents on the topic of transgender kids.
“If your little boy comes up to you and says, ‘Daddy I wanna be a girl,’ you just let him rock with that? Where did he get that?” he said. “If you let this five-year-old little boy eat candy all day, he’s gonna do that.
“Like, when did it become a good idea to let a five-year-old, a six-year-old, a 12-year-old make a life-changing decision? When did that happen? Like, I don’t get that. I don’t understand that.”
The interviewer then talked about the process of gender transitioning, saying she didn’t agree with puberty blockers or “cutting off his pee-pee,” to which Ne-Yo replied: “He can’t drive a car, but he can decide to change his sex?”
Wow these kids have no idea what orgasm is’ & think its OK for kids to make decision to mutilate/remove their sexual organs & their ability to ever have an organism.
This is disgusting, we are here to protect children from harm including harming themselves
They have some of the highest incidence of suicide, but yeah, you’re “protecting” them by calling them disgusting and blaming them for the downfall of society.
They didn’t call the kids disgusting. Put more effort into reading and less effort into being hysterical.
So you’re saying people who rail against this don’t regularly call these people disgusting? You really going to lie like that?
Nope, I’m saying you need to learn how to read but I see you’re still struggling with that. What’s the matter kiddo, are you going to wah wah all day in the comments because people aren’t in favour of allowing children to mutilate themselves? Stop being a wet wipe, it’s not that hard to understand.
Mao’s goal was to create genderless society bc it makes it much easier to have complete slave society of workers that are loyal to only the government. He used many methods to eliminate any other desires except desire to be loyal & serve government.
Whats going on now is the same thing.
This iant some new cultural issue that grew organically, where people came together bc they felt like trans-people need to be promoted & idolized etc.
This is by design, this is an attack to end freedom & create society of genderless slaves.
If they destroy nuclear families, turn males into feminine weaklings & females into unattractive masculine , etc,
They can get rid of outside loyalties people have like a male is naturally going to protect his family from harm. Remove the men & the government becomes the father that the family seeks out to provide for & protect them.
Its to break down our personal connections & loyalties to our families, now the government can fill that void.
It’s literally 0.000001% of the population. What in the fuck are you on? Destroy the nuclear family? Yeah, all of the divorces and cheating didn’t do it, it’s this fractional part of the population, lol. Some of you people see these gay and trans people like the Boogeyman or some shit.
Divorce and cheating is a problem also but it’s not the same.
@silent That may be the actual percent of the population, but it is pushed by the Libs into everyone’s view. It went from “you should tolerate” to “no, you need to celebrate”. The answer is no. You can sit around with your head in the sand all you want, but this is a serious issue that needs to be addressed and pushed back on. Stop targeting children. Period. As for the destruction of the nuclear family. This agenda plays a part in it. One party is encouraged to break the marriage through government subsidies. Like the overpaying of child support, and alimony. It makes sense that his ex would stand by this as she could use it against him in court when this agenda is pushed on his kids. Tell me why this is more prevalent in blue states? Especially in celebrity households. Just because there are other issues in our country; it doesn’t mean we ignore this issue. Culture matters. This shit needs to stop. I’m not sure why this needs to be a partisan issue.
It’s pushed? By who? By saying treat these people like people instead of like something is wrong with them. Because they’ve been here. Atlanta has a whole community full of black gay and trans people. I haven’t lived there in 20 years, and they were everywhere. So who is pushing them if they were there? You just didn’t know about them or care to know about them existing. So you prefer to treat them like shit, and you think that’s okay? Stop hiding behind someone “pushing” something to act like an asshole, which is really all you want to do. Gay and trans teenagers documented are some of the greatest suicide risks, but you don’t want to see them so you can feel comfortable. FOH.
he needs to get custody of his kids ASAP. i’m tired of westernized black women destroying our kids and partaking in these disillusional liberal agendas.
If black families would just stick together this wouldn’t be an issue. Instead of custody, maybe he should have kids with a woman he plans on staying with or keeping in his life. Now this lady is going from boyfriend to boyfriend while the kids just watch the revolving ho door. Great influence. I wonder how they’ll do relationships when they grow up?
Not yo dick/pussy, None yo bidness
A male wants to be a female then that female wants to be male again………….. Whoops
When this does happen, what business of it is yours? It rarely happens though. You could find that out if you cared to look. But you want to go back to pretending these people didn’t exist like before.
I wasn’t saying it was my business i was just having a laugh
He was right the first time. Sorry but if you have a bed time then you aren’t old enough to make massive life changing decisions about your body. But that’s liberals these days… Why listen to reason when you can just dogpile people for displaying common sense? Anyone that seriously thinks gender reassignment surgery on children is something to be encouraged needs to be sterilised.
Much better that they make massive decisions like kill themselves to appease dummies like you instead. Everybody went to school with a kid that everyone knew was gay or that wanted to be a girl or a girl who wanted to be a boy, but you fools are acting brand new like this is something you’ve never seen before. It’s America. Leave them alone and let them do their thing. We don’t live in a dictatorship where it’s any of your business. It’s between them and their doctor, and stop acting like their parents make them this way. Yeah, some parent wants to incur hundreds of thousands of dollars in medical fees to help their children.
They’re just supporting their kids. You people are really sick that you have targeted these people to pick on when they already have the worst time in society.
Get the f… out of here with that hysterical nonsense. What’s the matter, did your hamster working the controls in your head have an aneurysm?
I’m hysterical, but you’re the dummy blaming them for the downfall of society and calling them disgusting, ignoring that teens in this group documented have the highest rates of suicide. Very hysterical.
Why do a lot of women support this ? A lot of black women support this..why? Can someone help me understand this crap.
Probably because they know a gay or trans person. When you actually know people and what they go through, it makes you sympathetic.